Getting It Right

About the Book

This book offers a transformational, practice driven process for couples who are fully committed to becoming masterful at being relational. Built around 90 minute weekly exercises, it provides a structured pathway for developing powerful relational habits through consistent awareness, intentional dialogue, and ongoing practice. Each assignment strengthens the skills that create durable connection and emotional safety.
Couples learn to cultivate relational safety, deepen accountability, and reliably lead with empathy and respond with empathy, even in moments of tension. The process supports partners in practicing vulnerability, releasing defensiveness, and building strong emotional self regulation—core capacities that allow relationships to thrive rather than drift into reactive patterns.
Across the weeks, couples develop a shared language for connection, a reliable method for repair, and a set of relational habits that reinforce trust, closeness, and mutual respect. The book emphasizes repetition, reflection, and conscious engagement, helping partners transform everyday interactions into opportunities for growth.
To support long term development, the book includes structured monthly assessments and a clear system for tracking progress. Couples can monitor emerging strengths, identify areas needing attention, and intentionally build habits that support relational excellence over time.

About the Author

Therapists Bill and Robin Shearer have worked with over 2000 couples for over 4 decades. Together they have developed Mindful Choices Couples Therapy, a transformational process for creating the habits of relational excellence. Mindful Choices Therapy increases awareness, safety, accountability, empathy, and vulnerability through the development of positive habits.