From newborn infants to dying adults, we all communicate to reduce local discomforts - i.e. to "fill current needs." Doing that promotes
satisfaction. Anything you do that causes a significant
emotional-spiritual-physical-mental change in another person can be called communication.
It´s impossible to "not communicate" with other people, for silence and inactivity cause reactions and presumed meanings.
The quality of your life and key relationships depends largely on the effectiveness of the way you communicate - yet you probably
don´t know what you need to know about this vital life skill. To reality check that, mull these five
1) Name a learned skill that you rely on more often than
communicating to get your key needs met. Note that thinking is
2) How do you distinguish between effective and ineffective communication? If
you´re not sure, how can you tell if you´re communicating effectively in
3) On a scale of 1 (totally ineffective) to 10 (totally effective), generally how effective a communicator would you rate yourself in calm times __ and in conflicts __ recently?
4) Identify the five most important people in your current life. From 1 to 10, how effective would you rate yourself in your communication with each of them in calm __ and conflictual __ times? How effective would each of them rate you?
5) Take your time, and
see how well you do
communication quiz. Then return.
Would you like to improve your communication effectiveness with others and yourself?
Seven Essential Skills
This unique guidebook describes and illustrates seven vital communication skills that any motivated
person can learn, with practice. They are: