Tosol

About the Book

These pieces are reflections and expressions of painful moments of denial, bargaining, self-acceptance, self-confrontation, and self-preservation. Domestic violence has increased drastically and will continue to do so if not addressed openly and honestly. The biggest threat is secrecy. The greatest lies are the denial of both participants. “I won’t hit you again.” “I’m so sorry for what I said.” “Why did you make me do this?” “I just don’t understand.” I could go on and on. Heck, I’ve been there, done that, know that, lived that, survived that. Just consider me the whistle blower, and together we can stop domestic violence. It starts with us. We know when we’re hurting and not being treated right. It doesn’t feel right. Please start talking and don’t hide. These pieces are simple prayers; positive affirmations of self-worth; and words of encouragement, enlightenment, and hope. Peace and love . . .

About the Author

About The Author A participant of domestic violence, I began pouring out my pain through my pen. I had several violators that trained and taught me in the etiquette of emotional, and physical abuse. I became “mentally paralyzed” and my peripheral vision obscured. As a “PK” I had my own“greenleaf”experiences. I learned to adapt to the usual “do’s and don’ts, I was seen and not heard, I obeyed, however rarely DID I understood the what, why, or why nots. As the youngest and only girl I wasn’t adored, my mother even allowed me to be disciplined by a sibling. A discipline that I now see as emotional and physical abuse, however back then I seen it as normal. I had a volatile and dysfunctional marriage, but I learned a lot. Never elevate or love anybody above myself. Denial was my greatest enemy, survival now is my best friend.