It Started With Eve

About the Book

Many books have been written about relationships. Most of these writings, by so-called experts, tell us that we need to do this or do that to have a healthy relationship and a common suggestion is that there be greater communication between potential mates. One of the primary reasons for the high divorce rate is the absence of real communication between men and women. If we were to only listen to what women say, men would generally be the ones accused of poor communication skills.

For too long men have been lumped into the categories of being “dogs” or “deadbeat dads” without society ever really knowing the male perspective of these issues or conflicts. What needs to be understood is that there are numerous legitimate reasons for the behavior of these stereotyped men, including an indispensable factor: some of the women in their lives. This does not mean that the bad decisions and irresponsible behavior of men be assigned to those women. Yet, if we look a bit closer we can conclude that the interactions of men and women often promote behaviors, which are rooted in their expectations, whether realistic or unrealistic.

It Started With Eve is the counterpoint to the common views held by many people regarding manhood, commitment, fatherhood and emotional expression. It also addresses prostitution, gold-digging, female infidelity and the fears men and women have about getting intimately involved with the opposite sex. This is not a “femme fatale” story, nor is it a global attack on women or womanhood. The primary purpose of this book is to educate and set straight many of the inaccurate views that men and women have regarding relationships.

As the subtitle states, "A Man´s View..", is what I offer while providing a variety of material that supports my views. I will also attempt to provide some sort of understanding of the games that many women play and how relationships can (and often) suffer as a result.

This is not an autobiography, but I do include personal experiences to illustrate certain points. The information included in this work is not designed to point the finger at anyone in specific. My primary purpose is to give a wake-up call to many of the men who are getting played by women, and since I´m a man, I feel it is my duty to help bring this mistreatment to a halt.

Some feminists would probably disagree with the aforementioned contention and assert that women are the ones who are (and have been traditionally) treated unfairly. Assigning blame is not what this is all about. Both women and men often get themselves into predicaments that have nothing to do with the opposite sex, and they often get what they ask for. All I´ve done is recognized common situations, facts and worded my conclusions. Some might say that my views are extreme. To them, I say, “Wake up!!” As I’ve already stated, I’m not trying to point the finger at all women or at all men. Yet, I refuse to defend inappropriate behavior by men just because I’m a man. And I recognize how it is so easy to get caught up on stereotyping. I back what I’ve written up with studies, surveys, interviews, excerpts from the writings of relationship experts and personal experience. I have a very vivid imagination, but I didn’t make this stuff up. I just call it like I see it. The last time checked, my vision was very good. Open-mindedness and honesty are essential for this work. The time is now to “keep it real”.

About the Author

Garry L. Williams is a graduate of SUNY Brockport in Brockport, New York and has independently studied male-female relationships. He serves as the Editor for the R.A.S.C.N.A. in Rochester, N.Y. and does freelance writing for a variety of publications.