OUT SMART (Instead of Outsmarted, Tarred, and Feathered)

About the Book

OUT SMART (Instead of Outsmarted, Tarred, and Feathered) is the book no one wants you to read; especially your wife and the lawyer she will surely be hiring soon. It is also the first appearance of an entirely new kind of man... one perfectly prepared for a successful divorce... the DELTA MALE. Unlike his "Alpha Male" in-charge counterpart, he just can´t seem to get it together... apparently. Get to know him. The Delta Male has a lesson or two for you on getting OUT SMART.

For the first time in one source, you, the beleaguered husband trapped in a dead-end marriage, struggling just to keep your morality, emotions, and finances intact, have the support, understanding, and, most importantly, the tools you need to not just survive… but to win your divorce. Out Smart will not only help you avoid the vicious, expensive, and debilitating experiences that divorce usually brings, this work will also give you a working philosophy that will empower you to emerge victorious.

Compiled and composed by a broadly experienced group of professional men (and a few enlightened women) organized as Get Out Smart, LLC, this first publication by the group sets the stage for their stated goal of changing the landscape of divorce in America into one that levels the playing field to benefit everyone involved and optimizes the outcome for not only her and the children but for him as well.

From the book’s Preface:
… the marital and family landscape has morphed into a specter our grandparents’ generation could scarcely have imagined. From same-sex coupling becoming institutionalized, to internet-fueled porn now part of our children’s digital wallpaper, to the myriad and mercurial comings and goings of today’s moms and dads as we ooze our sensibilities into the 21st Century, the “family” environment has become ambiguous to the point of being virtually indefinable.

In striking contrast, the “institution” of divorce has remained remarkably constant with women possessing access to a judicial armamentarium that, if any legislature tried to put it in place en masse today, it wouldn’t stand an ice cube’s chance in Hell. When it comes to divorce in the US, could anyone argue today against the premise that it pays to not have a penis? Of course not.

So it should come as no surprise that over 90% of all divorce proceedings initiated in the US are initiated by the wife. And, logically, why shouldn’t they be? The way the system works now, she has everything to gain and it costs her nothing. Every shred of divorce law in every state of the union is geared to protect mother and child and, by default, the wife when there are no children. The husband/father is a big boy who is not only expected to take care of himself, he is expected to take care of everyone in his family… even when they are taken from him. And, insult to injury, the standing assumption is he cannot be trusted to meet his responsibilities willingly. No, the expectation is his responsibilities must be enforced.

…one thing becomes clear: the only way an average Joe facing divorce with nothing but the best of intentions stands a chance is to take control however he can.

Under current conditions, no one, not a high-powered attorney, not your congressman, not the judge, nor any other external force is going to get you out unscathed from the crappy situation in which you find yourself. It can only begin to go your way if you quietly take the reins now, before the official process gets underway. Responsibility for the tough calls that need to be made cannot be delegated.

If you are a man and you are experiencing discontent (yours, hers, or both) in your marriage and want to save your mental health, keep your moral compass intact, and, ultimately, keep your financial butt out of a sling, devising your exit strategy is something you must think about yourself as clearly as possible. And you should think about it sooner rather than later. Fact is, right now is not too soon.

Compared to men standing alone on this misty battlefield, women have endless support, advice, guidance, and reinforcements. Their mothers, sisters, girlfriends, lawyers, various “institutes”, “non-profit support groups”, and a phalanx of other social, legal, and psychological advisors stand ready to counsel them across the treacherous slope they are about to traverse. And most of this advice leads them to take charge in areas they have ignored before now, to lift themselves up and prepare for battle, to get ready to nail you, the evildoer, and, if they really do it right, spring it on you in such a way that you don’t know what hit you.

… if you just want to get the hell out of the hole of a marriage you are in right now… read on. We’re with you. We know what it takes to get ready for what you are about to face, and we know ways for you to get through it without losing an arm and a leg... if you’ll just play it smart.

…for whatever reason, taking care of business in our personal lives doesn’t seem a priority when the woman we loved and to whom we committed our life has become (somehow… how? …what happened while I was busy slaying dragons!?!) more like a cousin with whom we never got along than the soul mate with whom we danced down the beach in the moonlight the night we proposed.

…Assuming you are intelligent, facing divorce, and in any way comparable (like the rest of us) to the schmuck described above, you need to apply all your business skills and social instincts to your personal situation right now. It might not come natural and it might not feel right, but you are simply going to have to shift focus.

No matter how you go through it, with our ideas or without, your life is going to change drastically with divorce. This point cannot be overstated. No one gets through this trauma without being profoundly altered. For the typical guy, it is nothing less than a tornado ripping through the house... a natural disaster over which you have no control. This book is a hopeful attempt to change that.

…no man haphazardly heading for his first divorce has any way of knowing how it is going to go, let alone anything like a clue about just how traumatic, how thoroughly changing, the process is. If you experience divorce the way 90 to 100% of men before you have experienced it, you will find it changes you in fundamental ways you simply cannot begin to comprehend right now. And, usually, these changes are accompanied by a huge amount of anger, guilt, and resentment.

…if she has already sprung a divorce filing on you… You are about to be raped and there is (as is true with all rape) no way to “lay back and enjoy it”.

Your personal and financial life is about to be laid bare, dissected by strangers, and passed around like carrion to the amassed drooling scavengers. If you’re lucky, you’ll find some comfort in building a new group of friends with whom to commiserate and have a few shekels left to scramble a new life together some time in the next decade or so. Maybe. If you’re lucky. Sound melodramatic? In most instances, it’s actually an understatement.

…But if you are still at the stage where you are just beginning to see the mistake you made in hooking up with this woman or if in other ways you are sensing the relationship has grown cold and separate paths for the future seems most probable, and neither of you has acted yet, seize this moment to shut up, use your head, slow down, read this book, consider your own unique circumstances, avoid disaster, and possibly even come out ahead.

…A few men like you have come through divorce having learned a ton and having saved a bundle, able to get on with their lives better than ever. We’ve gathered their wisdom here. Some of what has been gleaned fro

About the Author

Get Out Smart, LLC is a group of professionals who have recently come together in recognition of the daunting task men face in divorce. Based in Atlanta, Georgia, among its members are business people, attorneys, accountants, and others, women as well as men, who through personal experience and direct observation have seen the violence, the discord, and the personal destruction our current system can produce when married people fall out of love and into a state of turmoil, especially as regards the destiny of the husband / father. They have seen it, and they know it does not have to be. Read this, their first book, then burn it… before anyone figures out what you are up to. www.getoutsmart.org