When Girls Don't Tell
a personal account of revictimization from child sexual abuse
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About the Book
"When Girls Don´t Tell" is an accounting of revictimization told candidly by a female minister who was compelled to reveal her own past experiences after counseling so many young women and girls in recovery programs regarding sexual abuse that started from childhood. She found that sharing her experiences helped to loose the bondage of silence that was festering anger, frustration and destructive behaviors in many of those that she sought to help.
"When Girls Don´t Tell" sheds light on this growing problem (of child sexual abuse and revictimization) as well as offer solutions. It gives insight about some causes, symptoms and behaviors of those experiencing revictimization from child sexual abuse. This writing also addresses how many situations (of revictimization of child sexual abuse survivors) can be avoided altogether.
In addition, "When Girls Don´t Tell" includes a section called "My Time to Tell" that readers can use to begin writing their own journal towards the path to healing from abuse. It allows those who are ready to disclose, the opportunity to express their own experiences. This can greatly help with the process of healing.
Who should buy this book?
• Anyone who has been sexually abused or know someone who has been sexually abused.
• Anyone who works with women or girls because according to statistics at least 1 out of the 4 that you are servicing needs this help. If you are working with certain population, juvenile delinquents, etc. this percentage increases significantly.
• Anyone who works with men or boys, because they need to teach this population to understand the effects of sexual abuse that may be going on with their sisters, mothers, friends, spouses, etc.
• EVERY PARENT
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ALL PROCEEDS FROM THE SELL OF THIS BOOK GO TOWARDS THE EFFORTS TO PREVENT SEXUAL REVICTIMIZATION OF ABUSED YOUTH (WHO HAVE EXPERIENCED CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE). Funds will be used to 1) set up healing and referral centers, 2)cover costs of educational materials and 3)recovery support services.
I. When girls don’t tell, many times it is the shame
Or because they cannot name the thing to tell.
What is it called?
II. When girls don’t tell, it could be that they’re afraid
Not knowing what would then be said
By the hearer of their terror
III. When girls don’t tell, it’s not because they want to hide it
It certainly isn’t due to pride
They feel so low and sometimes dirty
IV. When girls don’t tell, many times they fear rejection
They are afraid of harsh correction
That the hurter warned would come...
As much as I can recall my own revictimization experiences totaled nine times with nine different perpetrators from the age of four until I was twenty two years old. This writing explores the effects of several of those incidents.
About the Author
Rev. Margaret Jamal, Ph.D., CPhD: Ordained Minister, wife and mother. Certified Philanthropic Development Officer, Executive Director and Founder of the R.A.T.E.S Foundation-a National Heritage Foundation; a Congressional District Program. When (R.A.T.E.S.™) was first established, it emerged out of a church outreach project to help unite churches and community organizations to meet the needs of the homeless, hungry and neglected children. R.A.T.E.S is an acronym, which stands for Response-ability, Account-ability, Evaluation-ability, and Sustain-ability. Dr. Jamal also hosted TV and radio programs; wrote and produced radio programs for youth,“When Young People Talk, Legacies of Faith. Authored guide books for organizational development.