The Remarriage Book

Master Common Stressors Together

by Peter K. Gerlach, MSW



Book Details

Language : English
Publication Date : 4/14/2003

Format : Hardcover
Dimensions : 5.5x8.5
Page Count : 538
ISBN : 9781401045753
Format : E-Book
Dimensions : 5.5x8.5
Page Count : 538
ISBN : 9781469103303
Format : Softcover
Dimensions : 5.5x8.5
Page Count : 538
ISBN : 9781401045746

About the Book

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Love is not enough...

        Typical new stepparents and bioparents (co-parents) usually find that building a multi-home stepfamily is unexpectedly confusing and conflictual. Most recent stepfamily literature estimates that over half of American co-parents who attempt re/marriage after divorce or mate death ultimately re/divorce psychologically or legally - despite their love, maturity, commitment, and experience. The "/" notes that it may be a stepparent´s first union.

This unique guidebook results from 27 years´ research into why so many U.S. couples re/divorce. It appears that there are five factors that combine to often defeat love´s brightest dreams:

  • unseen psychological wounds from childhood in stepfamily adults and kids, and...

  • blocked grief from two or three major sets of losses in some co-parents and/or stepkids; and...

  • co-parent unawareness of (a) their inner family of subselves and related psychological wounds; (b) healthy grieving basics; (c) vital parenting and relationship skills and (d) stepfamily realities; and...

  • These factors and high neediness causing one or both partners to commit to wounded, unaware people (mate + ex mate + stepkids), for the wrong reasons, at the wrong time; and...

  • Little informed co-parent support available in the media and their community.

 My work as a stepfamily therapist since 1981 suggests that courting and re/married partners can work patiently at 12 Projects together to overcome these five re/marital hazards and forge a strong, nourishing re/marriage

About the Author

Peter has spent over 17,000 hours in clinical, phone, and classroom consultation with members of ~1,000 typical Midwestern divorced families and stepfamilies since 1981. He is an invited member of the Stepfamily Association of America Board of Directors.