There are many good “diaries” written by pregnant women for pregnant
women, but a dairy written by an “expecting father” is not common. Most
men hide their feelings under the archetype of “a strong, tough guy”. They
forbid themselves from expressing them, even when the arrival of his fi rst
son brings forth a wave of new and profound emotions.
This small book has that merit. The author has allowed himself to write
freely, without shame the feelings that invaded his heart and mind while
his wife shared with him the impressions, emotions and experiences of the
coming of their fi rst son, a few years back. He did this by writing letters to
his unborn son telling him how he, as a father-to-be, was experiencing his
wife’s pregnancy. In the process it became his experience of an “expecting
There are many men, too many, who have not had the chance to confess to
themselves nor to others what they have felt while their wives were pregnant.
Probably because they did not have a chance to refl ect consciously about
such new emotions, nor did they have a frame of reference of another man
experiencing those feelings and expressing them. This is the reason why
this book may be helpful. It offers to those “expecting fathers” a rich frame
of reference, which they can use to clarify their feelings. They will fi nd out
how common these emotions can be when they read in this diary how
another man had similar responses.