Studies have consistently concluded that many personality disorders and more serious mental disorders are believed to be the result of
dysfunctional family relationships, and very
often stem from the parent-child relationship. This makes sense, children initially learn important behaviors from their families of origin.
For example, parents are the first ones to socialize
their child so they can teach their children socialize
and to say please and thank you, take turns, be patient etc. The primary purpose of this book is to
assure that parents have the information they need
to properly raise children who have the skills necessary
to be successful adults and not end up in the Criminal
Justice System. By the time youth end up in the
juvenile justice system, it may be too late. They become labelled an offender or maybe even a predator. That
label gives society the right to lock the youth up
during which time they will be traumatized.
Sometimes well-meaning, uninformed, and frustrated parents
perpetuate their children entering the criminal justice
system and even of child serving agencies such as
social services. When parents are faced with children
who are incorrigible, at-risk, or the parent is unable to care for the child due
to their own personal problems, some parents will
welcome the intervention of the criminal justice system
for support. After their child has been taken into custody,
I have had parents tell me, “you raise my child because I
cannot do it.” Some parents believe that having access
to a probation officer with a badge and powers of arrest, gives them the relief and respite they needed to address
their child’s destructive behavior. My three decades of
experience working with youth and parents in the
criminal justice revealed that, in most cases, probation and social services intervention do not make youth better.
Conversely for most youth, their experience with
social services and probation departments has
resulted in ongoing delinquency and the youth
transitioning into the adult Criminal Justice System.
However, good parenting is the gatekeeper to the
criminal justice system.