Be a Wife in the Making
Marriage is a two-way street. If you want to be independent or you have the mentality of doing whatever you want, please take a minute to think about it. It seems like you are not ready yet because you’ll put yourself in a situation where you’ll go through a separation or a divorce that could be avoided.
Marriage should be based on respecting each other’s expectations and choices. Unfortunately, this is not the case, you will not have any privacy and boundaries. Sometimes, you’ll have to act like a child just for the sake of the relationship. If you are dating or in a relationship and you feel like you can do whatever you want, it’s two things.
1. It’s either he’s cheating, he doesn’t want to go too hard on you just so he can do what he wants and when he wants.
2. Maybe he’s not really interested in you. He’s getting something from or playing you. Remember, a man can propose to you, even marry you, just to get what he wants, and two, three years later he knows that he’s going to leave you.
Men, in general, have a list of things that they want their wives to do for them, but they will never talk about them. In this chapter, we are going to take a look at what these expectations are and how you can start preparing yourself to become the wife that your man wants.
One of the most important things that men want from their wives is stability. They need someone who can be a rock for them, someone who will be there through thick and thin, good times and bad. If you’re not ready yet to provide that kind of stability, then your man is likely to lose interest in you. This stability forms the bedrock of a successful marriage, so it’s important that you take the time to prepare yourself for it. So what sort of stability is expected? The answer is simple: both the emotional aspect and maturity in handling the family.
The starting point for this stability is that your man wants to feel that he can always rely on you, no matter what happens or how bad the situation seems. If you’re not ready emotionally to take care of him and provide that stability, then he will look elsewhere for it. And because he needs this stability so much, if he finds someone else who can offer it instead of you, chances are very good that he will leave you and marry her instead. That’s why you see sometimes men leave their fiancé or even their wife to be with another woman. But don’t worry, that won’t happen to you.
So what’s all this got to do with being a wife in the making? Well, looking at this from his perspective, we can see why “being a wife” is more than just tying the knot with him. It means becoming someone who can provide him with the emotional stability that he needs in order to function at his best. It’s something that you have to work on before you even get married, not just during the marriage itself.
So how can you go about preparing yourself for this role? One of the most important things is to start thinking about what it means to be a wife and mother. What kind of skills and attributes will you need in order to be successful in those roles? How can you mentally prepare yourself for the challenges that you will face?
A man always has a desire for a good home with a good environment. A man would marry a woman that can cook healthy food, keep the house clean, give him good sex, and raise the children properly. These are essential things that make him feel content in the marriage. A peaceful house is equally important for the longevity of the marriage.
She also needs to be prepared, not just with skills but knowledge as well. Being able to cook is important, but knowing what you are cooking is even better! Understanding how your man thinks will allow you to anticipate his reactions so that you can be ready for them when they happen. It will also help you discern the best way to support him emotionally so that he feels loved no matter what’s happening in life.
If kids are involved in the relationship, be careful
Raising kids is very important for a man’s spouse. When you get married, it is your duty to become a good mother and help him in the rearing of the kids. Not knowing how to raise children could put a setback on his desire to marry you because he thinks that everything will come crashing down when the kids come along. However, the point to be noted here is that it’s never the responsibility of a woman alone to raise children. A man’s role is to be a protector, provider, guide, teacher, a source of happiness and security for the kids. It is important to remember that men appreciate women with children based on how they treat the kids.
Principles to remember from this chapter
Being able to make a house a home is the first step in the transformation of a female to a wife. Men want to feel that they are at home after a busy day and a stressful day. You need to know how to welcome the man if you are home. If you will not be home at the moment, always give him some surprise. Prepare something for him, leave it on the table or in the fridge.
If you are home when he comes home, just by taking his bag from him he will feel like you’ve removed a huge load from his shoulder. Start helping him by removing his shoes. A bed bath or a chair bath with a hot towel is well recommended. While massaging his shoulder or his head, ask him about his day. Was it stressful today? Encourage him by making him believe that you understand that he’s working hard to provide for the family. Remind him about the plan you have together, that one day you will have your own business. Then bring him to the table, have dinner, and then take him inside the room for dessert. That’s how you keep a man at home. When he’s at work, he won’t be able to wait for work to be over to come home. Clean the house, change the sheets, make the room smell good, and dim the lights. That is enough to change his whole day.
A man wants a woman who is physically affectionate and stays faithful to him. Don’t do anything that can make him suspicious that you are doing something wrong. Even if a man doesn’t tell you anything, he’s watching every move and every step you make. Remember, men are logical; therefore, he won’t tell you anything until he’s ready to make a decision.
A woman needs to understand and fulfill her husband’s physical desires. Don’t ask if he wants it, give it to him. Sometimes, it is better to give it to him instead of offering him a plate of food.
It is important for a wife to be able to take care of her husband emotionally and be able to keep up with his lifestyle. Your main job is to study your man, know his passion, where he likes to spend his time and on what. If you don’t know your man’s passion, you’ll never be able to communicate with him. Because a man talks only when he’s doing what he loves best.